Updated: Jul 19
There are times in your life when you feel confused about who you are. You don’t know if you are making the right choices, if you are happy with who you are or how to be your authentic self and leave the negativity behind you.
Luckily for you, with determination, strength and prayers you can overcome these moments, and you can discover who you are inside, unapologetically. What are the steps that you have to take?
1. Get to know yourself
If you want people to know you and love who you are, you have to do this for yourself first. Try to discover who you are inside, regardless of what other people think about you or the things you forced yourself to believe in order to fit a certain pattern.
Spend some time with yourself and notice what are the things that you really believe in, what are the things that make you happy and what are your true aspirations in life. You can do this through meditation, exercise or some type of art; anything works, as long as you have a good time and you find out a little bit more about your true self every day.
2. Focus on what you love about yourself
I know this is easier said than done, but you will get there eventually. We all have flaws and if you focus on them, you will never be able to love who you really are inside. Instead of always thinking about your flaws, try to spend a few minutes every single day remembering all the moments when you were proud of yourself.
It may be a little bit difficult in the beginning, especially if you are not used with yourself pointing out your advantages. As time goes by, you will learn to notice the positive things about yourself first and put the small flaws in the back of your head. It is important to improve yourself, but you have to know your advantages first.
3. Accept what you can’t change, improve what you can
As I previously said, once you know your advantages and disadvantages, it’s time to start working on yourself. Do everything in your power to improve even a small detail about yourself every single day. This can be something small as making healthy choices when it comes to eating or something bigger such as taking courses that you always wanted to take. Work with what you have and you will achieve success!
4. Be unapologetic about who you are
I know that nowadays, many people are uncomfortable stating their opinion if it goes against the majority. Well, that’s about to change! No matter what others believe, how they feel or how they want to make you feel, you have to be unapologetically yourself.
While it may be rough in the beginning and you may face criticism, eventually, everyone will get used to the fact that you are your own person and you have your own opinion. Don’t give up, no matter how much pressure you have to face; the only person you ever have to satisfy is yourself.
There will always be a challenge in front of you, no matter what you do. This does not matter, as long as you are confident that you will overcome any and every obstacle. It will be difficult and emotional at times, but in the end, you will always be a winner because that’s who you want yourself to be!
*article originally published on Connect Women Mag April 10, 2019